HOW TO BALANCE YOUR CAREER GROWTH WITH YOUR MOM’S LIFE?
How to keep thriving in your professional career in Finance while being a very busy mom?
When I realized I was pregnant, I was troubled because I was not where I wanted to be; financially speaking.
I dreamt of becoming a mom until I was my own boss and no longer dependent on a big hierarchical organization to put food on my family’s table.
However, life happened, and between many trial and errors from frustrated business attempts and procrastination from my side. I got pregnant when I was far from the financial freedom needed to stop working for someone else and dedicate my time to enjoying my sweet baby.
So, the time came, and I had to keep working, like so many other parents, and be the best mom I could be despite not achieving my ideal scenario.
I believe this is something many moms can relate to as well. Many females dream of being present in each second of their child’s precious first years without working to sustain their family.
Nevertheless, most of us have to juggle life between being a mom and work.
I genuinely believe work is life. Working in what we love gives us joy, meaning, purpose, motivation, and fulfillment. However, even in the most excellent financial jobs, there are days that stress reaches extraordinary levels, and you need to dedicate more time than you would like to solve issues.
I often feel guilty. My heart breaks when I hear my baby crying, calling for me. I feel awful realizing that I am missing a lot of moments that will only occur during these lovely first years, and I never forget he is far more important than my career.
Babies do not care about money. They care about quality time with you.
On the other hand, I cannot simply quit and leave my husband alone with all the family’s financial burden. No week passes where I do not plan for a future with more time reserved for my child.
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HAVE A SOLID SUPPORT SYSTEM
Well, I guess I learned to enjoy the mixed feelings chaos.
I am fortunate to have a solid support system. My baby’s grandmothers help us with the baby most days of the week, and my husband has Fridays off to take care of the little one. In Latin America, we are very close to our families, making things easier.
I am not going to lie. I am deeply grateful to work from home every day and be close to my baby. Nevertheless, I am constantly interrupted, slowing my productivity and focus.
If you need to work to provide for your family and have no relatives to help, arrange with friends, neighbors, caregivers, or daycares.
Do your research and ensure your baby will be safe, respected, and taken care of while you are away.
REMEMBER THE FACT THAT INTELLECTUAL CHALLENGE AND DEDICATING TIME TO YOURSELF WILL MAKE YOU A BETTER MOM.
Some parents resent their children, blaming them for not pursuing their dreams. Your children owe you nothing; you owe them everything!
Being a parent does not impede conquering the mountain top. It requires better coordination and logistics arrangements.
And honestly, being a parent gives you a competitive advantage. You become so aware of the time that you maximize its usage.
Before being a mom, I lost so much time binging Netflix and social media. Now time is so precious because I have so little time for myself that I do not waste it and do so much more!
Having a baby is beautifully exhausting. Having the blessing of a job in finance even distressed me from my mom’s life. It challenges my problem-solving, strategic, and analytical skills in different contexts that I genuinely enjoy! It makes me feel valuable to our society other than as a parent.
Having that time for my professional development allows me to be fully present with my child as I am not delaying my dreams or career. Thanks to work, I am a more loving, dedicated, and patient mother.
LEVERAGE ON YOUR NEW SUPERPOWERS!
Now that you are a mom, you know how to take full advantage of your time. Use that productivity boost to get more done of the right things you need to focus on to keep scaling in your career (if that is what you wish to do).
Create the pitch to propose that brilliant idea you have, lead an innovation project you believe in, study more of what you love to make you a more valuable professional.
Now you are more empathetic than ever before.
Lead through compassion, respect, and work ethic. Treat others with the same kindness you want others to treat your children when they are adults.
Being a mom does not necessarily mean you will still want to become the next CEO of your company. Your goals may change. But, they may also still be the same as before. If you still have that hunger, desire, and fire inside you to achieve your best self professionally and even feel more motivated thanks to your little one, organize, fly and conquer!
If your vision changed, that is perfect too.
Always be you and treasure the unforgettable moments with your babies.
Lots of love.
Author: Ruth Valverde A.
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